I hear all the time about the need to be diplomatic and to not burn bridges. The older I get, the more I realize how true this is. My imperative for you all today is to take the high road every time. Count the costs before you wage a battle on someone. Who will it affect? Who will be impacted now, and in the future? Will this person or organization that you 'take on' every be needed in anyway in your future?
Some of us are not natural bridge builders and harmonious folks. Some of us are called to move others or organizations into action. You can't always be diplomatic when you are trying to change something. But I implore you today - count the cost before you wage war. As one mentor says to me, "Joseph, what hills are you willing to die on?" The older I get the hills get fewer and fewer, but are more and more important. What hills are you willing to die on? What are your non-negotiables.
A friend of mine recently was ousted as a youth pastor of a church in a smaller town. As I dug into the story there was fault on both sides, people's feelings were hurt, etc. etc. But, as I checked out the story from all angles I realized my friend was taking on every battle that came his way. Arguing with secretaries about trips / dates, the way the phone was answered etc. Picking the wrong battles.
Before you wage war - ask a mentor or friend if it is worth fighting over. Trust me on this one - I am learning about it more and more every day. JVD
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Very wise.....
he that would be a leader, must be a bridge. Burn that one and you're burning yourself.
Attitude IS everything.
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